above: Deck the halls with twinkling lights, richly hued florals and “all the holiday feels” for this season’s good-as-gold parties. – Photography: Brian Dorsey Studios
Expert advice for making the best of group dynamics – whether you’re hosting or guesting this season
ON-TREND HOSTING
“We are seeing that our clients are either wanting very opulent old-school holiday parties, complete with caviar service and fine Champagne—heavily decorated, gilded, beautiful flowers and greenery, all the holiday feels you can imagine. Or, on the flip side, one thing that came out of the pandemic that changed the way people entertain during the winter months is that they embrace the cold, and are enjoying having these beautiful wintry outdoor parties sprinkled with bistro lighting, outdoor heaters, fire pits, mulled wine, a roaring grill that guests can go up to and get their proteins freshly grilled, Ooni pizza ovens baking delicious pies to order, custom s’mores with homemade marshmallows and graham crackers, hot buttered rum and hot cocoa. A holiday playlist is also a must as the music sets the tone for a great party.”
– ROBIN SELDEN
Managing Partner and Executive Chef of Marcia Selden
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Tips for being a good guest
RSVP promptly.
It’s bad form to make your host hunt you down.
Show up.
You said you were coming, so do. People are counting on you—and really want to see you!
Say no to cut flowers.
Bring a hostess gift that doesn’t require her immediate attention and extra work.
Go easy on the rosé.
Wildly popular and pretty to boot but ranging from 11 to 14 percent alcohol by volume means a couple of glasses on an empty stomach will sneak up on you. Opt for a festive mocktail and indulge in the buffet table before imbibing.
Be prepared for No Shoes customs.
Make sure no one in your crew is wearing socks with holes, and consider bringing a pair of “inside” shoes, like SilkyToes Foldable Flats, which come in travel bags.
Send a thank-you note.
A text or email might seem fine these days, but to show true appreciation and make an impression, write and mail a handwritten note.
Two for the Road
A pair of favorite hostess gift recs from Robin Selden
“I am obsessed with ‘The Duo’ Drizzle & Sizzle olive oil set from Graza.”
graza.co
“I also love to give my favorite hand soap, candles and/or diffusers by Nest. The grapefruit scent is so fresh and clean-smelling. I literally have them all over my house.”
nestnewyork.com
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